Will Your Ex Return? There's Something More Important

Once again, my live today had a theme and we did a lot of relationship tarot reading. So many people today were asking, in one way or another, “Will my ex come back?”

When a relationship ends, it often leaves us with a mixture of grief, longing, and unanswered questions that can feel debilitating. It’s natural to wonder whether the story is truly over, and the pain you feel can be so brutal it’s just about physical at times.

Sometimes, there is another chapter waiting to be written, and sometimes not. However, we need to really summon our courage, because the key to this, paradoxically, is learning to detach. It’s often the case we have to complete the lesson of acceptance. Even when our whole soul may feel sure that we and our beloved are meant to be together, they too have lessons to learn and an evolution to traverse.

For our own wellbeing and even health, we must take them at their word that it’s over and act accordingly, whether we feel it or not. This has the added benefit of showing them that their words should deserve to be taken seriously – if they are being disingenuous with us this holds an uncomfortable mirror up to them, which can be very powerful. It's also the fastest route to reconciling with someone we truly are meant to be with, but our job here is to understand our lesson from this love, heal, and be brave enough to step into a brighter future with or without someone.

When people ask if their ex will come back, there’s usually even more underlying questions beneath the pain of rejection. Questions like - Am I still lovable? Did our connection mean something? Will I ever feel that kind of love again?

The answer is always yes. Relationships, even the painful ones, have shaped you into who you are today. Love will find its way back into your life if that’s what you truly want and you are open to it, sometimes through reconciliation, but often through new beginnings you can’t yet imagine.

The message of the tarot is this: even if your ex does not return, your heart will heal, and you are on the path toward love that truly meets you where you are now, not where you were then.

Why Detachment Is the Key

Here’s the paradox: the more tightly we hold onto the outcome - “they must come back to me” - the more we block the natural flow of energy that could bring either reunion or new love.

And here’s the truth many people already sense. Our ex may take advantage of the fact that we feel deeply, using that emotional pull to keep us tied to them even when they’re not ready to show up in a healthy way.

Detachment doesn’t mean not caring. It doesn’t mean closing your heart. Instead, it means allowing the universe to unfold in its own timing. It’s a practice of trust, and it is also a reclamation of your own power.

When we detach, we release the need to control the outcome. We refuse to let another person dictate our self-worth. We trust that what is truly meant for us will not pass us by. We must create space for love to return, or for something even more aligned to arrive.

Think of detachment as opening your hands. Love can’t fly back to you if you are clutching too tightly. But when your palms are open, you are ready to receive whatever is truly yours.

Detachment is not easy, but we grow and are so much more than we were when we commit and do it.

Try this simple meditation if you’re feeling stuck.

Cord-Cutting Meditation to Release Attachment

Cord-cutting visualisations are powerful. These cords represent the invisible connections between your chakras and your ex’s energy. They may have once carried love, but if you are no longer together, they can hold you back. If you aren’t familiar with the chakras, I’ve included a visual.

 The Cord-Cutting Meditation

1. Find a quiet space. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and breathe deeply. When you feel comfortable and ready, see yourself in a bright, white space, and see your ex start to emerge in front of you. Acknowledge them as calmly as you can. See cords of energy where you are both connected, stretching from your chakras to theirs, perhaps from your heart, throat, or sacral. Maybe some, maybe all. Trust what you see.

   
   

2. Acknowledge the cords. Say to them, silently or aloud:

   “These cords represent our bond. But our paths are now separate, and I need to reclaim my energy.”

   
   

3. Begin to remove the cords. With your hands (physically or in your mind’s eye), take each cord out of your body and hand it back to them. Say:

   “This no longer belongs to me. I release you.”

   
   

4. If they resist. Sometimes in your visualisation, you may sense them trying to stop you, holding onto the cords. Keep going anyway. This is your healing, not theirs. Continue until every cord has been returned.

   
   

5. Seal your energy. See golden light pouring into each chakra, filling and protecting it. You are whole, complete, and free.

   
   

6. End with a blessing. Place your hands over your heart and whisper:

   “I am free. I am open to the love that is truly mine.”

If you commit to detachment today, no matter how wretched and desperate you feel right now, every moment, and every day after this one will be better, even if it's only

slightly at first. You can grant yourself the gift right now, that this is the worst you are going to feel and it only gets better from here - isn't that great?

Remember that the wisdom of the tarot can help us free ourselves. It reminds us that we are the authors of our own stories, and that endings are often beginnings in disguise.

So, if you find yourself asking, “Will my ex come back?” let the cards remind you that love always finds a way. It may be through reconciliation, or it may be through a new path opening before you. But your worth, your beauty, and your capacity to love are eternal.

A silhouette of a meditating figure with vibrant chakras aligned along the spine, set against a backdrop of geometric patterns and a rainbow aura, illustrating the energy centers for detachment meditation.